Friday, August 22, 2014

The Why Behind the What - When Your Child is a Tattletale

Why, why, why... from as early as two years old, kids have that word down in spades! And it never fails that as soon as you take the time to give kids an elaborate answer "why" they follow up with, "but why?"

Don't get weary in the why's! Every time you take the time to answer the why behind the what, you are shaping your child's worldview! The reality is that if parents do not take the time to shape that world view and answer the why's, children and teens will get their "why" from somewhere else.

God knew that being a parent would be a hard journey at times, that is why He gave us Scripture to back up our answer to the "why!" When we present the Word of God to our children, it gives kids such a better ammunition for good actions that can fuel them throughout their lives versus the proverbial "Because I told you so."

If you have siblings in your home or your children go to school or are involved in any other activity that involves other children, odds are you will have to have the conversation with your child about being a tattletale! The definition of a tattletale is a person, especially a child, who reveals secrets or informs on others; a telltale. Does that sound familiar in your home?

I have been so guilty of statements such as "nobody likes a tattletale" and "you will never have friends if you are always being a tattletale". But why...

It might be just as much our fault as parents, teachers and leaders that kids do not have "friends" because perhaps not only is their response wrong but our response is wrong as well. Kids tattle because they've developed a strong sense of right and wrong and they start policing other people. Tattletales suffer from an overdose of conscience. It has always been amazing to me though when my kids will tell on their brother or sister and then be upset when the result of their tattletale was that their brother or sister had to be punished. Kids won't say, 'I need you to listen to this and be outraged on my behalf and then do absolutely nothing, but 90 percent of the time that is what they want.

There is so much parenting and teaching that comes with the topic of being a tattletale. Children are learning to problem solve, learning the difference between good and bad judgment calls, looking for security and figuring out what they have the authority over versus what needs a parent involvement. Kids want to be validated!

There are so many Scriptures that can be ammunition for you when you are trying to teach on the topic of being a telltale!

For the constant conflict of I am cleaning or doing my part but so and so is not doing theirs, we can encourage them that they are responsible for their own actions and to do their job with excellence and to not worry with the standard that others do theirs... Scriptures to back this up... 2nd Thessalonians 3:11-12, "For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies. Now such persons we command and encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do their work quietly and to earn their own living." 2nd Timothy 2:15, "Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth."

For the times when your child feels he has been wronged by another child, Matthew 18:15-17 “If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend. If he won’t listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again. If he still won’t listen, tell the church. If he won’t listen to the church, you’ll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God’s forgiving love."(The Message)

When your child has developed a bad habit of always being a telltale, teach about being a a trustworthy friend. "He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is trustworthy conceals a matter."(Proverbs 11:13 NASB)

We get the privilege of raising up the next generation of world changers! You are doing a great job and no one can be a better parent for your child than guess who, YOU! I encourage you to find your own Scriptures that can be fuel for your "why" conversations! The best is yet to come!

Monday, August 4, 2014

Monday Morning Glint

This weekend at Awaken we began a new series, SERVOLUTION! A Servolution is about:

> Initiating a complete and radical change of a persons life through simple acts of kindness for the glory of God.
> Bringing God's Kingdom on earth as it is in Heaven.
> A church revolution through serving.

For anyone in the building this weekend, it was impossible to not know that this subject makes up the fabric of my husband's heart... the vision that Awaken Church was birthed out of.

Our purpose is to AWAKEN people to God's grace so that the Kingdom will be advanced. Our hope is that because of Awaken's presence in our community that the seats in churches all around our city will be filled because we know that when we care for others, God cares for us, His church!

One of my favorite quotes of the day was "God desires for us to live our lives with open hands not with closed fists... He wants to know that if he can get it to you than He can get it through you."

We all laughed when my husband said that we probably won't awaken anyone to anything by screaming on a street corner, YOU ARE ALL GOING TO HELL! But do we say these words without saying them in our everyday lives? Perhaps with our judgment, tone of condemnation or even our heir of supremacy that we might walk around with? Yesterday we were all encouraged that the very best way to reach those around us is not by word or tongue but by our actions.

But whoever has the world's goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him? Little children, let us not love with word or tongue, but in deed and truth. We will know by this that we are of the truth, and will assure our heart before Him. 1st John 3:17-19

If we invest in the people all around us, live a life that is real in front of them and love them with kindness we can break down walls in people's lives. Because Kindness brings people to repentance.

Every Christian is called to serve and our hope is that as a church family, as Awaken Church, we would be known as a church that reaches out to the last and the least, meets needs whenever they arise, reaches out to the orphans and the widows, brings hope to the hopeless and will be known as a place where the name of Jesus is lifted high.

Every good and perfect gift in us and around us is from Him and because of Him, it's not about us!

Whose life can you impact this week maybe through a random act of kindness, meeting a need or giving a word of encouragement?

Let's start a SERVOLUTION!

If you missed Awaken this past weekend, I encourage you to go online and listen to the podcast... a great way to start your week!

Have a great Monday!

If you would like to study even more about what Servolution is all about, check out Dino Rizzo's book Servolution.

Monday, July 28, 2014

Monday Morning Glint

I think we are all a little sad that yesterday was our last weekend At the Movies, it has been a lot of fun!

It was especially fun this weekend as we had all of our little ones three and up together in "big church". I absolutely love watching our Awaken Kids engage in worship so freely without hesitation and watching their reactions to the sermon points. The most beautiful part of the day though was at the end of the message when there was a call for those who would like to invite Jesus in to their heart and hands went up all over the building... kids seem so much more aware of their limitations and need of a Greater Power. Needing Jesus just makes sense!

This week we FACED OUR FEARS

We all have fears... when my husband asked the audience to yell out their fears from their seats, they ranged from spiders and snakes to the fear of failure, the unknown, heights and everything in between.

I have to say my favorite part of the sermon was this:

We can be Brave, when we trust God!

God did not intend for us to walk alone! Don't we all feel stronger when we have a friend's hand to hold, and God is a friend that sticks closer than a brother!

Wait for the Lord's help. Be strong and brave, and wait for the Lord's help. Psalm 27:14

Children are really great at this! When they face a fear (which in our house for our three-year-old Lacie generally involves a black ant crawling on our bathroom sink that literally debilitates her until someone can come to her rescue), they want and know they need help! Lacie will stand there and wait for as long as it takes for someone to come HELP! At the picnic following our service yesterday, Lacie somehow convinced one of her friend's moms to carry her from bounce house to bounce house so she didn't have to walk on the grass where the ants might be. Children are at times so much more aware that they need help in order to conquer. Often times when us adults are facing our own trials and fears, we may not so readily go to the source of our Bravery first.

God is not necessarily going to take away all of the things from our life that make us feel intimidated and afraid, just as it is impossible for me to take away every little ant from the planet. But when we choose to trust God in the midst of our fears, we will find that we can feel BRAVE and strong instead of crippled... and filled with peace instead of anxiety!

God promises this peace in John 14:27... I encourage you to go check it out!

If you missed Awaken this past weekend, I encourage you to go online and listen to the podcast... a great way to start your week!

Have a great Monday!

Monday, July 21, 2014

Monday Morning Glint

Waking Up from the Secret Life

Yesterday we continued our At the Movies series, and I have to say that this message was one of my all-time favorites. My husband encouraged us to Wake Up From the Secret Life.

Proverbs 6:9-11, "How long will you lie down, O sluggard? When will you arise from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, A little folding of the hands to rest - Your poverty will come in like a vagabond And your need like an armed man."

I have often read this scripture and thought of the financial poverty that happens when we are lazy, but Brian encouraged us that when we live as a daydream believer we slink in to an emotional poverty which leads us to an impoverished mindset. We constantly look inward, living in a comparison game, and find ourselves wishing for a different life but never living one.

We Are Meant to Live for So Much More!

Are You Living the Dream, or are you Living In One?

Our daydream life should not look better than our reality! As my husband said, "Your Facebook feed should be the envy of all of your friends." Not because you have all of the money but because your life is full of adventure, taking risks, believing God for big things and seeing those beliefs turn in to reality.

I love watching Walter Mitty's face in this scene shown yesterday from The Secret Life of Walter Mitty... a defining moment for him without a doubt. In this moment, the pain of staying the same was greater than the pain of change! Walter Mitty's face shows the many different scenarios playing out in his mind of what could happen if he jumps out of the helicopter, but also reeling at the same time is the pain of realizing what happens if he doesn't. We all have our list of different excuses that play out in our mind every day, but I loved when my husband said, "God's mandate blows our excuses out of the water." God is the Helicopter Pilot in your life and He is saying, Go Now! Go! Go! Go!

So what does God want us to go do? He outlines it very clearly in Matthew 28:19-20, GO AND MAKE DISCIPLES! He wants to use us to expose the lie of the secret life in others. Who do you know that is living in a daydream... living the same hum-drum 9 to 5, walking through life "asleep" with no joy, purpose or hope? The people all around us are looking for someone who will come where they are and show them a different way... not with judgement or confusing words but with our lifestyle that just looks different.

What three people can you reach out to this week? How can you expose the lie of the secret life?

This message requires a response! If you missed Awaken this past weekend, I encourage you to go online and listen to the podcast... a great way to start your week!

Have a great Monday!

Monday, July 14, 2014

Monday Morning Glint

Instructions on how to...

Fit In
Make Everyone Like You
And Always Be Happy

This past weekend was a very fun and challenging message At the Movies entitled Life Hacks. We all have times that we wish there was either a big Staples EASY button or an Instruction Manual like what was alluded to on the new LEGO MOVIE for life. So when challenges come our way throughout the day we can just press that button or read the manual and know exactly how to move forward. You can find life hacks galore in any grocery store check out line magazine... But God actually did leave us with an instruction manual, 2 Timothy 3:16 says that all Scripture is God-breathed and helps guide us in life!

My husband used the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5 to show how the Bible is the number one source for Life Hacks and a much more effective use of our time. Here are some of the points that really stuck out to me.

Don't Worry Be Happy... how often do we spend time worrying and fretting over situations when God promised in Matthew 5:33, "Seek First His Kingdom, and all these things will be added to you."

Be Content with Who You Are... Don't Call Bad what God has deemed good. I have definitely been guilty of this one too many times, wishing I had a different skill set or personality (we are so hard on ourselves aren't we?) The compare game is a ruthless one... God MADE US ON PURPOSE JUST THE WAY WE ARE!

Pray on Purpose... Prayer will either change the situation or it will change us. Matthew 6:7 really struck home, "And when you are praying, do not use meaningless repetition as the Gentiles do, for they suppose that they will be heard for their many words." Brian challenged us to talk to God like a friend, have real conversations with Him... He hears us and is already working on our behalf!

What was your favorite Life Hack?

The message was so powerful! If you missed Awaken this past weekend, I encourage you to go online and listen to the podcast... a great way to start your week!

Have a great Monday!